How are you perceived by others, or how do you perceive others in value or worthiness to be a friend or lover? Do you judge a person by the body they present to you, the material objects they possess or do you reserve judgment until they show by their words, actions and/or deeds themselves?

A body is really nothing more than ID symbol that is convenient for us to recognize each other by – you know “oh, that’s Joe I recognize his cute ears”. Material objects are just other symbols, usually of the indebtedness of the other person if we take a look at the recent housing market and Wall Street crashes. I try and admit I am not always successful to reserve judgment until people reveal themselves.

However, in the dating world and other places as well in today’s society, we tend to gravitate towards the symbol first and get the truth of the person later. This is quite opposite of times as recent as the 1950’s where the substance of a person was considered first and if that great successful person also was quite cute, handsome or pretty all the better.

This change in societal values of determining the value or worthiness of a person, in my opinion, is and has been driven by the media with some agenda and the marketing gurus trying to sell us stuff. Will we ever be able to return to those other times, I don’t know. Hopefully we have as a society learned something through the recent and ongoing economic roller coaster. All I can do is not be quick to judge someone by the body presented or the material objects they own until they reveal with their words, actions and deeds the truth of themselves.